My Son heard me...
- A.Ayers Publishing Co.
- Nov 10, 2023
- 2 min read
During a conversation in the car with my son, I unintentionally upset him. He said, "Mom, why do you bring me down? Like the other day when I mentioned wanting to become a cook and feeling confident about it... you told me to stick with one thing, something you've never said before."
I responded, "Woah... maybe I have been without realizing it." His words made me reflect on what I said and where I currently stand in my life.
That night, I went to bed and woke up the next morning with a sense of conviction (THE HOLY SPIRIT). It hit me that I had been projecting my own desires onto my son. I felt like I had failed as a mother, as I tend to see things in black and white, either they work or they don't. I'm learning to give myself grace and allow for mistakes.
I realized that I didn't actually fail, but I was hurt that I let my emotions affect my son. This is a common occurrence – we often take out our emotions on those closest to us. It's crucial to use self-reflection as a powerful tool to confront our emotions, the passage of time, and our true selves.
The next morning, I knew I had to talk to my son. I explained that I was really tired, juggling multiple jobs, school, and taking care of him without much support. It can be overwhelming, but I find the strength to keep going because he didn't ask to be here. What I had been saying was something I wished I could do for myself – focusing on one thing at a time, seeking balance in my mind, body, spirit, and find rest.
I felt relieved, and so did he. He understood, saying, "Momma, I know... you have to stop working so hard."
In that moment, vulnerability with my child brought us to a place of understanding. I didn't want him to think I was holding him back from pursuing his dreams. I couldn't bear the thought of him resenting me for my words.
I've learned that I have the power to cancel and repent for my own words, communicate my true feelings, and mend any discord with those I love. Being a parent can either make you a better person or a bitter one, depending on how you reflect on your actions and their impact on your child's future. It's essential to be open and honest with your children, just as you expect them to be with you.
I'm human first, and then I'm a mother and I AM JB'S MOM!
Let those who have ears hear...
Grace! There’s no rule book to parenting. Feeling as a failure requires a shift in mindset, but also to put our trust in God! Isn’t he good enough? Isn’t he capable to handle what we can’t? This was really good. I can relate. It’s good to know mothers aren’t alone in these situations. ♥️ reminder for me was that I can’t do it all. We often tell our kids to use there words, I think I may have to take my own advice before spazzing.
Beautiful post
“ Focusing on one thing at a time, seeking balance in my mind, body, spirit and find rest.”
That hit me but when you said, “Focus on one thing at a time!” That echoed and I listened, I wish I could focus on one thing at a time but when God choose to give you 5 talents instead of 1 talent balance will come with the competition of that project and task. Being made in the image of Christ reflects that we have to wear many hats. Jesus is God but he is also healer, provider, revelatory and so much more. What helps me to have balance is going with the flow of what stands in my fac…
Wow this was right on time for me I was just so upset with my son on top of whooping him. This just convicted me because he is the closest to me and he catches all my emotions, feeling, bad days etc…Let the truth be told all he wants to do is be a kid and talk to his friends. Your word was truly cause for reflection and inventory also going back making things right with my son.